Many new mothers tell me that they plan to nurse their babies for six
months, or until they get teeth. With the AAP (American Academy
of Pediatrics) now recommending nursing for at least a year, it makes
sense to re-examine our ideas about breastfeeding babies with
teeth. I have had two babies out of six who got teeth at four
months, so if I had weaned them at that stage, they wouldnt
have been able to nurse for long at all.
Most babies will cut their first teeth sometime around
six months. Usually the first teeth come in fairly easily,
accompanied by a lot of drooling and chewing everything he can get
his hands on. Cutting teeth may make your babys gums swollen
and sore, and he may chew on the nipple just as he chews on
everything else to relieve his discomfort. The first molars, cut
at about a year, tend to cause the most discomfort .The very first
tooth, and the second one that will follow it soon afterwards, will
be bottom front teeth. It will probably be months before the
matching top teeth come in, so even if he tries, he cant really
bite effectively (closing the top teeth against the bottom teeth) for
a while. That doesnt mean that a bite wont be
uncomfortable with one or two bottom teeth, however. Well
discuss why some babies bite, how to prevent biting, and what to do
if you do get bitten.
By
the way, babys teeth come in a particular order, but at widely
varying ages and intervals. Early teething doesnt mean
your baby will be advanced intellectually, and late teething
doesnt mean hell be slow in other areas.
Many
babies never ever bite at all, and most who try it once usually
respond to your startled reaction by never doing it again. With
some babies, it is a little harder to break the habit, but all
babies, no matter how old, can learn not to bite.
A
baby who is latched on and nursing properly cannot bite the
breast. If the nipple is positioned far back in his mouth, and
his lips and gums are positioned about an inch behind the nipple on
the areola, then his tongue will cover his gums, between his lower
teeth and your breast. If he is actively nursing, he cant
bite &endash; and if he is biting, he cant be actively nursing
at the same time. He should never really close his teeth on the
breast while nursing, but his upper teeth will occasionally cause an
imprint on the areola due to slight pressure exerted during feedings.
This usually occurs with older babies, and is seldom painful.
If it is uncomfortable, you can take him off and re-latch
him. That will usually take care of the problem.
Here are some
tips on how to prevent biting:
Check to see
that he is latched on correctly. Make sure his mouth is open
wide, and pull him in closely so the nipple is far back in his
mouth. Sometimes after he has been nursing awhile, he gets
sleepy and the nipple pulls back in his mouth, and he may bite
reflexively as he feels the nipple slipping away.
Biting is
most likely to occur when your baby is full and loses interest in
nursing, toward the end of a feeding. Watch him closely for signs
that he is ready to stop the feeding, so you can take him off
before he bites.
Sometimes
babies bite to get your attention. As he gets older, you tend
to talk on the phone, read, or watch TV while nursing instead of
focusing on your baby. Try to maintain eye contact, speak to
him, and touch him while he is nursing. This way he will know
he has your attention, and he will be less likely to bite. You
will also be more likely to recognize signs that he is ready to
end the feeding if you are paying attention to him.
Watch closely
for cues that he is done with a feeding. Some babies will start to
fidget, pull off the breast and look around, or even tense their
jaws right before they clamp down. Learn to read his
signals.
Dont
try to force him to nurse. The one time I got bitten that I
really remember (and this is with nursing six babies) was during a
breastfeeding class I was teaching when my youngest was seven
months old. He was getting a little antsy, so I decided to
put him on he breast to settle him down for a few minutes while I
finished my talk. He was not at all interested in nursing,
and bit down hard enough to break the skin. Then he grinned
at me like he had done something really funny. I jumped
about three feet off the chair, which my audience found vastly
amusing. It was a great visual aid to demonstrate biting in a
teething infant, but I was sore for days. By the way, he
nursed for years after that and never bit me again.
Minimize
distractions by dimming lights, turning off the TV, playing
soothing music, or lying down in a quiet room. These
techniques may help your baby settle down to nurse without
biting.
Sometimes
babies will clamp down on the nipple if their nose is congested
and it is difficult for them to breathe. If they dont
have a clear airway, they may not suck effectively, and the nipple
may fall forward in their mouth. Check with your doctor for
treatment options if your baby has nasal congestion that is
interfering with breastfeeding.
Try to keep
your milk supply plentiful. Sometimes babies will bite out of
frustration when your supply falls and the milk isnt flowing
as freely as they are used to. This can also occur when you
have plugged ducts. (See article on Breast Infections and
Plugged Ducts and Increasing Your Milk
Supply).
If
your baby does bite you, your natural response is to exclaim loudly
and pull him away from the breast. This will usually startle
him, and he will release the nipple and react with
surprise. Often his feelings will be hurt and he will begin to
cry. This is negative reinforcement that immediately follows
the behavior you want to discourage, and is often enough to keep him
from ever biting again. Some very sensitive babies will be so
upset by your reaction that they will temporarily refuse to nurse
altogether. See the article on Nursing Strike for
tips on how to get him back on the breast.
Here are some
tips on what to do if your baby bites you:
You do not
want to pull him off your breast, although that is your natural
reaction. Instead, pull him in close to you. His nose will be
pressed against your breast and he will open his mouth so he can
breathe. This is better than pulling him off, because then
the nipple is stretched out while he is clamping down on it, and
you may cause more pain and damage to the tissue than the bite
itself. You can also slip your finger in between his gums or
teeth to get him to open his mouth and let go of the
nipple.
Stop the
feeding immediately if he bites you. Even a very young infant
can learn that if he wants to nurse, he cant bite. If
he is teething, offer him something to teethe on, such a teething
toy, a cold washcloth, a frozen bagel or banana (if he is eating
solids), a breastmilk popsicle or a knuckle (my babys
favorite). Talk to your doctor before using the over the
counter teething preparations. These products numb the gums
and tongue, but only for a few seconds. Sometimes this
numbing effect can make breastfeeding more difficult rather than
easier. If he tends to bite at the beginning of a feeding, offer
him a teething substitute before the feeding. Very young
babies can learn that some things are appropriate to bite down on,
but your nipple isnt one of them.
If your baby
continues to bite, you may want to tell him in a firm voice,
No, that hurts Mommy! and set him down on the floor.
He wont like it, but he will quickly learn that if he wants
to nurse, he cant bite. Be sure to comfort him after a
few seconds, but dont continue to let him nurse if he
bites.
Some older
babies like to try to look around the room while they are
nursing. This means that they turn their head while the
nipple is clamped between their gums or teeth. Try to minimize
distractions, but if he tries to turn his head while nursing, put
your index finger in his mouth immediately. He will soon learn
that when he turns away, he loses the nipple.
Sometimes
older babies (Nine months or older) just decide to wean
themselves. I had three babies wean before they were a year
old. They were ready, but I wasnt. A baby who
consistently bites every time you try to nurse him, in spite of
trying all the above suggestions, may be telling you that he is
done with nursing. Babies younger than nine months will
rarely wean themselves. There is very little you can do if a
baby decides to wean, because it is just about impossible to make
a baby nurse if he really doesnt want to. I suggest
that with babies of any age, (but especially those twelve months
or younger) you try to encourage them to continue breastfeeding
because of the many nutritional, emotional, and immunological
benefits. Sometimes a baby who is not feeling well, whose
mouth is sore due to teething or thrush, or who is emotionally
upset over something will temporarily wean (see article on
Nursing Strikes) but this is rarely permanent.
If, in spite of all your best efforts to keep him nursing, your
baby decides to wean, you can feel good about the time he did
nurse, and know that he chose to end the nursing relationship when
he was ready to move on to the next developmental
stage.
About the
Author
Anne Smith, anne@breastfeeding-basics.com http://www.breastfeeding-basics.com
Anne Smith is an IBCLC &endash; International Board Certified
Lactation Consultant and La Leche Leader since 1978. More
importantly, she is a mother to 6 breast fed kids with twenty plus
years experience of counseling nursing mothers. Her site,
www.BreastfeedingBasics.com
, provides expert advice and solutions to breast-feeding problems and
gives basic information on how to breast feed. Anne also features her
recommended breast feeding products and breast pumps.